What could ever illustrate the stages of a relationship better than the movie, “Crazy Stupid love”? It is one of my favourite movies now and it sure brought out almost everything that we have learned in this week’s lecture, specifically the Knapp Model of Relational Development as well as communication in a relationship.
It often starts with an introduction, followed by small talks to long talks then to greater commitments, isn’t it? This movie talks just about the whole relationship process. However, unlike any other love stories, this started off with the two main characters in the terminating stage of their relationship. Cal Weaver (acted by Steve Carell), one of the main characters, found out that his wife had cheated on him and what’s worse was she had also requested for a separation. Being struck by the sudden news, he was beyond shocked and devastated. Unable to cope with his emotions, he resort to drowning his sorrows at a local pub everyday.Eventually, as the time past, the couple had minimum contact with each other.
But just when things couldn’t get any worst, Cal met a guy by the name, Jacob Palmer (acted by Ryan Gosling), a young ladies’ man whom he had met at the pub earlier. Surprisingly he offered to help Cal back up in the modern dating scene again. Cal, who had nothing to lose took the offer instantly and his life has changed ever since.
Just within a short period of time, he corrected Cal’s image, ways of speaking and most importantly, with his esteem which leaves him irresistible to many. Jacob trained him to go through all the stages of love again, starting from flirting (initiating stage). However, among all these, there was a twist in the story as well. It was when Jacob was so close to convincing Cal that the dating scene was a much better life to live, he finds himself falling in love with a girl he thought he never would, Hannah. And it was apparent that this relationship was not like the others, they had real emotions involved and hence, both of them slowly developed a relationship with one another.
If you were take a look at this video, a short clip taken from the show, you will be able to see the stages of how their relationship blossomed. Similarly, it relates to the Knapp Model of Relational Development process too. They started from the initiating stage right straight to the integrating stage where they started labeling themselves as one.
To sum it all up, I thought the movie had presented the stages very well, starting from beginning, the terminating stage to the healing stage and then back to the coming together stages. In addition, they have also conveyed how communication can be such a crucial essence in every relationship.